Tuesday, May 13, 2014

Lady, don'tcha know we love ya?

(just in case you didn't know, this post title is from the Tupac song "Dear Mama")

My little crew and I celebrated Mother's Day all weekend long since we knew that Sunday would be busy as we visited both sides of the family to see our mama's and grandma's.

Saturday, we all got up and headed to run some errands as a family (versus me and Sawyer going while Josh stays home to work in the yard like we usually do).

Our second stop (after a quick run to Harris Teeter for some groceries) was to pick up some hydrangeas for our mothers for their Mother's Day gifts. We waited until the last minute to insure minimal dying for the plants since I have a black thumb when it comes to gardening. Sawyer mainly just enjoyed riding around on the little hand cart.


Josh also picked up some flowers for the yard to replace a giant dying bush that has taken over our landscaping. He took him several tries to get that monster out of the ground and eventually had to put a tow rope on it and pull it out with his truck (which he totally loved). We couldn't get all the roots up, so we had to cover it up with some mulch and buy this little hangy-tower thing. I'm thinking the new flowers are a major improvement

We headed to church Sunday morning where Sawyer promptly told my mema and mama that "we got you a mother's day surprise, it's flowers!" before we could even get into the sanctuary. Little surprise-ruiner.

After service, we went to my parents house for lunch prepared by my dad, made super obvious by the dirtiness of the kitchen.

Then we posed for our standard Mother's Day pictures.
photo by my daddy
You might ask, "Lauren, why isn't Sawyer in pictures with you on Mother's Day?" That would be because he was too busy playing on his pirate fort with Josh.
photo by my daddy

photo by my daddy
Sawyer decided to play with every toy he has at my parents while we were all enjoying lunch  (that he wouldn't eat) and Josh went to "clean it up", 10 minutes later this is what I found:




We spent the evening at Josh's parents' house where Sawyer discovered his Uncle Jordy's tent and was fascinated by it - but mainly just fascinated by walking in and out of it and tripping over the little doorway.


He also demanded that he get to help his Mimi stir the macaroni and cheese.

I am so blessed to have amazing women in my life who have truly paved the way for the steps I want to take as a mother (and a grandmother later in life). I am so thankful for my mama, Mema Dean, mother-in-law and grandma-in-law and really missed celebrating with my Mema Kay, but know she was having a great Mother's Day in Heaven.

Wednesday, May 7, 2014

thank a teacher


I was blessed throughout my school years with some absolutely amazing teachers. People who took the time to mold my little hyperactive mind into one that could focus and learn when I was younger and provided me great constructive criticism or advice when I was older. However, some of my wonderful educators stick out above the rest, so when's a better time to write about them than during Teacher Appreciation Week?

My second grade teacher, Mrs. Pat Calfee was the teacher that inspired my love for reading and writing. Despite second grade being so long ago, I can remember discovering how much I loved creating new worlds and putting my jumble of thoughts onto paper instead of swirling around in my head. I truly started to understand why reading was important and how it affected my writing.  Side note, I won "Best Speller" in second grade (and also "Most Fashionable Girl"). I have never been so proud as when Mrs. Calfee found my blog and commented on it! Mrs. Calfee is still inspiring children through her line of children's books called "Issy Books" that her granddaughter Issy illustrates, you can check them out here.



That very next year I had another great teacher in the third grade, Ms. Joyce Stokes. Ms. Stokes wasn't just a teacher to me, she was a counselor. When my friend Katheryn and I got into a big fight (like most third grade girls do), Ms. Stokes wasted no time in pulling us aside to make us apologize to each other. I will never forget her trying to make us laugh together by saying, "Y'all can't be mad at each other, both of your mamas play the 'pinano'." She also saw potential in me when I could not sit still in class. Instead of informing my parents that I needed medication or to be treated for ADHD, she told them to buy me a squishy stress ball that I could hold during class and focus my energy on when I felt like moving all about. I am so lucky that Ms. Stokes still lives in my hometown and I get to see her often at my mom's drugstore, she was also sweet enough to come to my wedding and baby showers.

Fast forward to sixth grade, I had Mrs. Ary Pritchard. Now, let me just tell you that Mrs. Pritchard was legendary at South Edgecombe Middle School. She was an almost 6 foot-tall, fierce-looking lady and feisty to say the least. I was terrified when I first walked in that classroom, and even more scared when I was saw her take a string and tie a male students pants up high around his waist so he would quit sagging and showing his underwear. But she taught me so much. I learned that you don't have to be soft-spoken and super sweet to be kind and that respect is earned, not given. Mrs. Pritchard also taught me to appreciate my height, which was something I big time struggled with as all my friends were petite little things while I was already taller than most of the boys in my class.

In the ninth grade I transferred to a new school 30 minutes from home. It was a big change for me, going into high school and transitioning from a big public school with over 140 kids in my grade to a small private school with only about 50 students in the whole upper school. But, in my new environment I found my love for Spanish with my teacher Miss Laura Robl. We watched a cringe-worthy Spanish soap opera called "Destinos" and I loved every minute of it. I loved Spanish so much that I went on to choose it as a minor for my first three years of college. Miss Robl taught me a new way of studying called the "chunking" method where you keep a stack of flash cards on you at all times to pull out and study whenever you get a moment. I used that idea throughout my college years.

In college, I once again made a big move transferring from UNC-Wilmington after my freshman year to East Carolina. While I had started out as a marketing major with a Spanish minor, I transitioned into an English major with a communications minor since I had basically no idea what I wanted to do with my life. Then I took a Intro to Fiction Writing with Dr. Bill Hallberg and Writing for the Electronic Mass Media with Dr. Laura Mixon and I knew that whatever I did with my degree, I wanted to write. Dr. Hallberg taught me so much about my own writing style and through his process of having each of his students read each other's papers, I learned how to not only give constructive criticism but take it as well.  Dr. Mixon taught me how to use those skills and creative juices to write for the media in various formats and that there are actual jobs that would allow me to utilize what I'd learned.

I know that teachers are in the news constantly as the general assembly and politicians spend a lot of time discussing salaries and ways to better teach today's children, but know that no matter what the government tells them about their jobs teachers are some of the most passionate people you will ever meet. So to all my friends who teach, thank you. Thank you for the long nights of grading papers, writing lesson plans, completing assessments and worrying about "your" kids. Thank you for suffering through endless professional development conference and meetings. Thank for you continuing to do an amazing job educating our future leaders even when your curriculum gets changed every year and you get told that you are going to be evaluated by the success of your students (even when you can't control how their home life affects their school performance). Thank you, thank you, thank you.
A very special thank you to Mrs. Calfee, Ms. Stokes, Mrs. Pritchard, Miss Robl, Dr. Hallberg and Dr. Mixon, because without you I truly have no idea where I'd be today.

Monday, May 5, 2014

Successful Relay

This past weekend was the Edgecombe County Relay for Life that I co-chaired along with my good friend Caroline and it was not only successful, but also an amazing time. I've blogged before about Relay and my passion for raising awareness (and money) for cancer research (read here) but this year was even bigger as it was my first time being SO involved in the whole planning process.

big cheesing at 3 in the morning (I think I was mid-laugh)

We were busy all week prepping for the big event, running last minute errands and making sure we had every thing we needed for a successful Relay.

at the track Thursday afternoon hanging banner with Caroline and "Mr Relay", Steve
In case you've never heard of Relay for Life, it is the trademark event of the American Cancer Society. People form teams to raise money and awareness for cancer research and create themes for their campsites which are set up at an all-night event, usually held on a football field with a track. All night long, teams sell items or raffle tickets for fundraising and participate in games and other fun things to keep them up all night, celebrating the lives of cancer survivors and caregivers and remembering those we've lost to the disease.

one of our new teams and their awesome "Giant Slayer's" theme and campsite
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The event always involves a survivor lap where survivors are applauded and cheered on as they make a lap around the field then a caregiver lap for those who have provided aid to cancer patients, followed by a team lap where each team walks around the track with their banners.

the AF-JROTC leads the survivor lap
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We not only had the usual entertainment of performers and dancing but also enjoyed a woman-less beauty pageant that was absolutely hilarious (and involved some twerking).

check out those lovely "ladies"
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my friend Lee, working hard for the money

Our torch lap that begins our luminary ceremony where we honor survivors and those we've lost to cancer is probably the most touching ceremony and most definitely the one that makes me cry the hardest. We turn out every light in the stadium so the only light is coming from the luminaries stationed around the track (torches, white bags with candles and gold bags with candles), our candle displays on the bleachers and the big torch that is walked around the track by either the family members of the person being memorialized or the survivor being honored. We also sell giant lit balloons that are let go at the end of the ceremony.

the luminary ceremony
via Ashley Marie Photography
Throughout the night we do theme laps to try to keep people up and moving, having a good time. Since cancer doesn't sleep, neither do we. We also had an entire hour of line dancing.

Blurry photo from the beach lap, and hellooo baby bump
This year was different for our county because we moved to a new location. It was quite the logistical adventure and I am so thankful that Caroline & I had an amazing committee who came up with ideas and plans to make this year work.
me and Caroline (and her daughter Haley & our friend Chad) throughout the Relay planning process
While I adore Relay, this year was super difficult for me. All night Friday night I had horrible back pain and nausea, I just thought it was from being pregnant and standing up for almost 24 hours so I suffered through, thinking of all those cancer patients who go through so much worse. Then Sunday morning I woke up and passed my first ever kidney stone!

Do you Relay?